from the desk of Pastor Jan ….. Love Triangle

Love triangle in relationship has been around for centuries. From Cleopatra-Julius Caesar-Mark Anthony story to the daily teenage intricate relationship of three people bound together, each having their own emotions and desires. It is bound to cause extreme distress, heartaches, and brokenness due to its complex demands and complicated interests.

But, come to think of it, a triangle is structurally the strongest shape. It represents geometric sturdiness and stability. It has the most load-bearing capability. Each side supports the other two, creating a resilient structure that can bear weight remarkably well.

When forces are applied to a triangular structure, they are evenly distributed across its sides and angles. ( The triangle holds its shape and has a base which is strong. And so, we find triangular structures in building supports and trusses. The overall shape of many bridges is in the shape of catenary (triangular) curve ( 2015). <!–split–>

Adapting the triangle’s structure qualities, can we say that love triangle in relationships can work as well? Can love triangle be a strong model for relationships? I say Yes, only when God is the third party in that relationship. When God is the base of the love triangle, then that relationship will stay strong. That kind of love triangle can bear heavy loads and pressures.

In Matthew 18:20, Jesus told his disciples, where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them. Jesus was referring to resolving a conflict. “The promise of Jesus means that when we’ve done all we can do personally to resolve a conflict with someone else, and we’ve had to admit we need help, right then, Jesus is there in the middle of the whole situation. In our time of deepest tension and possibly doubt about what may happen next, Jesus says, “I’m here. I’m with you. We’ve got this.” (

First John 4:19 says, “We love because God loved us first”. God love us even before we know what love is. God is loving us even when we do not know how to love. And so, when we start loving, when we get into a relationship, don’t we need God to part it? When God is in our love triangle, we can be assured of a happily ever after love story.