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From the desk of Pastor Stan . . .

Worship That Heals   — John 4:5-42

We take water for granted, but we couldn’t survive without it. We drink it, bathe in it, swim in it. We nurture our plants with it and even put it in our cars. Most of us, for now, have no trouble obtaining it. Not so for the Samaritan woman. She had to trudge all the way to a well to fetch it. She did not go to the well to gain insight about herself and about worship. She did not intend to become part of sharing God’s message. She went to slake her thirst. She thought she would simply draw the water, fill her jar and then trudge back home. <!–split–>

The conversation started innocently enough. Jesus asked her for a drink. We would think nothing of such a request, but in that day, Jesus’ seemingly simple request broke all kinds of barriers.

Important relationships often started at wells. Abraham’s servant found Rebekah at a well, and brought her home for Isaac. Jacob met Rachael at a well. But when Jesus, a Jewish man, asked a Samaritan woman for a drink of water, he reached through layers of taboo to make a connection.

Underneath the gender and religious issues, the two people at the well shared some things. They shared thirst, weariness and a common humanity. They both looked to the books of Moses for insight into God. Although her people considered this people outsiders and vice versa, they had some common ground. Despite all the reason not to ask for some water, Jesus started a conversation. Even with her objections, Jesus opened the door.

Despite the rough start, the conversation grew more profound with each exchange. The woman challenged both Jesus’ initiative in speaking to her and his ability to draw living water. She herself brought up their common heritage, their ancestor Jacob. Even so, she took a while to enter into the conversation. She seemed to acknowledge that her soul thirsted as much as her body. When she asked for living water, perhaps she was beginning to understand just who she was sharing a conversation with. She still understood at too concrete and literal a level, but she thought Jesus had something important to offer. Initially, she thought, as too many people today think, that Jesus would meet her physical or material needs.

Changing The Subject

We find out about one of her personal needs when Jesus asks her about her husband. The woman had been married five times. Jesus respected her privacy, as we should; he did not probe for details. Did she divorce, or had each husband died? We don’t know or need to know. She has felt deep grief. We need to know only that.

We might think that the woman tried to change the subject with her talk of worship. Asking about Mt. Gerizim or Jerusalem might seem a way to distract Jesus from the pain of her relationships. However, the turn in the conversation makes more sense than we might think at first. We know that grief over broken relationships or the death of a loved one can cause great anguish. So can harmful worship. This conversation may show us the connection between grief over relationships and the grief over harmful worship.

We have known those who have experienced hurt over bad relationships. A betrayal, an abandonment, a trust violated can leave deep wounds that take much time to heal. We may live with the scars, but the hurt lingers. Worship, too, can leave us wounded and hurting. Instead of joy and celebration, some worship falls heavy on guilt and shame. Worship can leave us feeling inadequate, unwanted, excluded. The scars and pain linger. Have we not known those who, having heard nothing but fire and brimstone as children, cannot feel deeply the love of God?

The Samaritan woman raises the question about whether worship should be at Mt. Gerizim or Jerusalem. A temple had stood near Mt. Gerizim, close to Shechem, since the fourth century B.C. As a high mountain, it was considered by the people of the northern Hebrew kingdom a point where heaven and earth met. The temple in Jerusalem, initially built by Solomon and restored after the people’s return from exile, represented to the Judeans of the southern Hebrew kingdom the very presence of God.

If Jesus knew so much, perhaps Jesus could clarify where one should properly worship God. Jesus does indeed clarify about worship. True worship occurs in the heart. True worship is in spirit and in truth. Worship flows from the heart in gratitude to God. We should not focus on location, but on what happens within us. Does worship flow from within us? How does worship feed our spirits? How does worship connect us to God? Worship in spirit and in truth can take place in so-called high church or in informal settings.

Understanding Jesus’ Identity

The story itself points to an important aspect of worship. Worship heals our hurts, and worship breaks down barriers. In John’s gospel, every character has layers of meaning. We should see each person as an individual character, with feelings and insight about coming to believe in Jesus as the Christ. The characters in John represent something more as well. We understand Nicodemus as a real person, with real fears about coming to Jesus, and real questions. Nicodemus also represents the Pharisees. We understand the Samaritan woman as a real woman. She cried real tears over her five marriages. She also represents the Samaritans. In the minds of the Jews of that day, the Samaritans had practiced idolatry by worshiping false gods. They did not hear the command not to worship other gods. “So these nations worshiped the LORD, but also served their carved images; to this day their children and their children’s children continue to do as their ancestors did.” The woman in the story teaches us that Jesus cares about our broken relationships and about the ways worship has hurt us.

The woman who began by mocking Jesus, comparing him to Jacob, came to understand Jesus’ true identity. Jesus met her where she was. She expected a messiah who fulfilled the promise of a prophet like Moses, not a new King David. The woman, who had come to the well in the middle of the day alone, went back into the village to share the identity of Jesus with others.

Worship That Heals

We want worship that heals our hurts, wherever they may come from. Part of that healing comes from knowing that God understands us and loves us anyway. We want worship that breaks down barriers. We want to break down barriers even if others feel the shock of the disciples that Jesus spoke to a woman. We want worship that breaks down the barriers between liberals and conservatives, and between Democrats and Republicans. We want worship that breaks barriers between cultures and languages, between economic classes and social strata. We want worship that unites us and shows us our common humanity. We want worship that brings out our potential for ministry. We want worship that brings a deeper understanding of Jesus. We want worship that connects us to our tradition, but also pushes us into new territory. We want worship that gives us new strength and joy, bringing us closer to God. We want worship that nourishes us like a drink from a well, that cleanses us like a bath and that refreshes us like a dip in a pool.

May we open ourselves to people looking for true worship. May we open ourselves to those who seek healing. May we open ourselves to those who have experienced hurtful relationships and hurtful worship. May we open ourselves to those who worship in a different way from our way. May we open ourselves to those who come for no other reason than that they feel thirsty, even if they are not quite sure what they are thirst for.

From the desk of Pastor Stan . . .

This is something I read and wanted to share with you:          CAN WE TRUST GOD?
We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.         Romans 8:28

While it may feel good to hear that God will make sure our stories turn out well, most of the time we don’t really want to have someone else taking charge of our lives. If you’ve ever had someone try to get you to work harder or eat better or quit smoking, you know how frustrating intervention can be. As much as we might like to think we’re rational people, often we’d really rather live a second-rate life on our own terms than do better because someone else told us or nagged us into it.  <!–split–>

Of course, it should sound outrageous for us to rebel directly against the authority of God in our lives. After all, he’s God, King of the universe, so we’re supposed to do as he says—right? Yet even we as God’s people willfully rebel against God’s directions (for example, see the story of Jonah in the Old Testament). But more often we try subtler approaches, pretending to follow God’s way while in our hearts we keep our distance from him.

It all boils down to a simple point: We are terrible at trusting God to be God. We’d rather manage on our own and mess things up. Pastor Timothy Keller paraphrases today’s verse this way: God promises to give us exactly what we would ask for if we knew what he knew.

Now that will make for a good story—if we dare to believe it.

 God, it can be so hard for us to trust you with our lives. Help us dare to trust that you always have our best interest in mind. In Jesus, Amen.

 Please Note: Bethel Wesley offers 3 ways to worship:
  • Bethel Wesley is having indoor services (10:00 am) with certain restrictions (mask wearing and social distancing).
  • Parking lot service continues—please tune in to FM 98.3
  • You can watch pastor Stan’s messages via this website: http://bethelwesley.org/worship/sermons/

 

 

Indoor Worship Resumed – Parking Lot Worship Continues

The Bishop Frank J. Beard has informed us that we can begin to meet, with strict guidelines, back in our sanctuary again. If you are not comfortable with gathering indoors, please continue to join us in the parking lot  at FM 98.3 or on the streaming video from either our facebook page or our webpage. Those who plan to come inside must wear a mask and maintain the recommended distance of 6 feet. If you are feeling any of the symptoms, please do not plan to attend in person.

Please keep our country in your prayers as we struggle through this challenging pandemic. A lot of traditions cannot be followed. Maybe we can find some new traditions. Call somebody you haven’t seen recently or who might be alone. Share God’s love.

Be safe and wear a mask when you must go out.

Grace and Peace, Church Council

From the desk of Pastor Stan

This has been a tough year for so many of us. My heart aches for those who have lost loved ones, for those that have died from the pandemic, and those families suffering from all kinds of illness. But it is my hope that we remember what God said to us: “I am sending my Son and His name shall be Emmanuel”, meaning in Hebrew, God is with us. Please believe that just as God promised, He is with us and He will help us make it through. Let’s try to connect with each other by phone, email and texts.     –Pastor Stan   <!–split–>

 AGAINST ALL HOPE

Romans 4:16-21: Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed” (v. 18).

But that can’t be; there is no hope. If anyone could have justly said that, Abraham could have. He was an old man, aged 100. His wife, Sarah, was 90-years-old. But God said, “Look up at the heavens and count the stars—if indeed you can count them. So shall your offspring be.” (Genesis 15:5).

We think of hope as simply a reasonable belief. We have hope if we can understand what we hope for. But Abraham believed against hope. His hope was a conviction that stood beyond hope.

God is beyond hope because God is beyond our understanding of what can be. Abraham believed, trusted, and put his faith in God who is hope beyond all human hope. There are no limits to God, and there are no limits to hope. God is hope. This is not wishful thinking but reality, as real as God is himself. God answers our “there is no hope” doubtings. He shows us hope, a hope against hope.

Lord, thank you that hope is more than I think it is.

If you have put strings of limitation on God today, consciously cut those strings.

(from Bible Readings ON HOPE by Roger C. Palms)

-Author Unknown

From the desk of Pastor Stan

This has been a tough year for so many of us. My heart aches for those who have lost loved ones, for those that have died from the pandemic, and those families suffering from all kinds of illness. But it is my hope that we remember what God said to us: “I am sending my Son and His name shall be Emmanuel”, meaning in Hebrew, God is with us. Please believe that just as God promised, He is with us and He will help us make it through. Let’s try to connect with each other by phone, email and texts.    –Pastor Stan   <!–split–>

 AGAINST ALL HOPE

Romans 4:16-21: Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed” (v. 18).

But that can’t be; there is no hope. If anyone could have justly said that, Abraham could have. He was an old man, aged 100. His wife Sarah was 90-years-old. But God said, “Look up at the heavens and count the stars—if indeed you can count them. So shall your offspring be.” (Genesis 15:5). <!–split–>

We think of hope as simply a reasonable belief. We have hope if we can understand what we hope for. But Abraham believed against hope. His hope was a conviction that stood beyond hope.

God is beyond hope because God is beyond our understanding of what can be. Abraham believed, trusted, and put his faith in God who is hope beyond all human hope. There are no limits to God, and there are no limits to hope. God is hope. This is not wishful thinking but reality, as real as God is himself. God answers our “there is no hope” doubtings. He shows us hope, a hope against hope.

Lord, thank you that hope is more than I think it is.

If you have put strings of limitation on God today, consciously cut those strings.

(from Bible Readings ON HOPE by Roger C. Palms)

From the desk of Pastor Stan

And what about you? The church? “You are God’s field, God’s building.” You too belong to God. You don’t belong to Paul. You don’t belong to Apollos. And what is the breathtaking implication of belonging to God? Let’s conclude our exposition by looking at the answer in 1 Corinthians 3:21–23: “21So let no one boast in men. For all things are yours, 22whether Paul or Apollos or Cephas or the world or life or death or the present or the future—all are yours, 23and you are Christ’s, and Christ is God’s.” <!–split–>

“You are God’s field. You are God’s building. God is giving the growth in his own field.” Decisions have much to do with growth in Christ. Growth in Christ has much to do with decisions. Decide to grow in Christ by: 1) Being a good example, 2) Being Forgiving, and 3) Serving faithfully. 

Much emphasis is given to the need for one to make the decision to accept Christ as both Savior and Lord. Behind such a decision is the necessity of faith – a loving belief and trust in the Lord. This belief and trust, this faith, includes confessing Christ as Lord and repenting of one’s sin. This faith includes making the decision to be immersed into Christ as taught in the Bible for the forgiveness of sin and the gift of His Holy Spirit. This faith must not be considered a decision one makes one time and then is finished or no longer a vital part of one’s life. Faith is not something that is of importance only in our coming to Christ, our being born again in Christ. Faith is something that permeates our life. We continue to grow in Christ through faith and in faith. Our decisions in life are based upon this faith as we decide to live by faith in Christ. Paul wrote of this faith in the letter to the Romans as he quoted from the Old Testament.

Decide to Be a Good Example to Others

I have taken a bit of liberty with verse one. In that verse Jesus clearly tells followers of Christ what NOT to do. Do not do anything that would cause another follower (whether a young Christian or one new in the faith) to stumble. That is, do not be an instrument that leads another to turn from faith in Christ. What are some ways that can be done? Let’s think about it with those who are young, those still living at home. This is a very serious admonition to parents and to grandparents. Those children look up to these in the family for direction. What kind of direction are they getting from the parents and grandparents? Not only in word, but also and perhaps even more important, in deed. Now, rather than making a list of those things that will have a detrimental effect upon those “little ones,” let us consider some ways to be a good example, a strong example to help those “little ones” grow in faith. Loving actions. Forgiveness. Faithful service in Christ. Faithful worship. Faithful stewardship. Prayer. Study of God’s word. It is doubtful that those “little ones” will come up to such faithful parents and/or grandparents and say, “Your examples of faith are awesome!” But your examples of faith will reap lasting results.

This is not limited to families alone. We all are living examples to others. Each of us are to be examples to others, especially to those who are young in the faith. How serious is this? Jesus said it is VERY SERIOUS – read verse two!

Decide to Be Forgiving

As difficult as it is, we must also be forgiving in Christ. Forgiveness is often very difficult. Remember forgiveness is not equal to approval of sinful choices. Does forgiving others and faith in Christ have anything in common?

Jesus taught in the Sermon on the Mount . . . Matthew 6:14-15: “14 For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.”

Decide to Serve Faithfully

Following Christ brings many serious responsibilities. We know Christ Jesus not only as our Savior who has made it possible for our sins to be forgiven and brings us salvation. He is also our Lord, which means He is our MASTER. We are His slaves. We are to faithfully serve Him and follow His will. Jesus pointed out very clearly that even when we do what He commands us to do, we are only doing what we should do and therefore deserve no special reward for such actions. Our relationship to Him is not built upon our good deeds. Our good deeds are evidence of our relationship with Him. Read James 2, and you will see that James puts a link between faith and works. While we are not saved by works, James points out quite clearly that true faith is accompanied by good works. Biblical faith is a faith that works.

Ephesians 2:8-10: “ 8For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.

We certainly have not even touched upon all the decisions that come from Christian faith, but we have seen in this passage from Luke that:

  • We are to decide to live in such a way that we are GOOD EXAMPLES to others and not a cause for others to stumble in Christ.
  • We are to decide to FORGIVE OTHERS even as we have been forgiven in Christ.
  • We are to decide to SERVE CHRIST faithfully.

From the desk of Pastor Stan – 2nd Sermon From The Series Rooted

I Planted, Apollos Watered, But God Gave the Growth

My aim in this message is to bring God’s word to bear on this amazing and wonderful and historic moment in the life of our church. The moment I have in mind is the overlapping transition phase in the process between my ministry as Pastor for Preaching and Vision for the last 44 years. That is the amazing, unprecedented moment we find ourselves in. <!–split–>

A Preemptive Application

This message is an exposition and application to our situation of 1 Corinthians 3:5–9. I choose this text because it is designed by God to teach a church how to think and feel about a situation in the church where two leaders have become a flashpoint of pride and division. That was the case at Corinth, and therefore my message is preemptive. I am not aiming to remove a problem; I am aiming to prevent one. If the truths of this text take hold of us as a church, what a wonderful, peaceful, humble, God-exalting season this will be. That’s my aim. The two leaders who have become the flashpoint of pride and division are Paul and Apollos. Look at 1 Corinthians 1:11–12. The church is lining up behind favorite teachers and boasting in them in such a way that quarrels and divisions are happening. The entire first four chapters of this letter deal with this problem.

An Occasion for Pride and Division

So there’s the issue and the goal: Paul and Apollos have become the flashpoint for the people being “puffed up in favor of one against another” – two leaders becoming the occasion for pride and division. That’s what Paul addresses in our text in 1 Corinthians 1 Corinthians 3:5–9. What can we learn about God and about human leadership, that will result in humility and boasting in the Lord Jesus (1 Corinthians 1:31) and not in man (1:29)? “Leaders are more honorable as they decrease and God increases.” Again verse 5: they are “servants through whom you believed.” Through whom. That means, the power that brought you to faith did not and does not reside in them. It flows Paul and Apollos are not saviors. They are not the gospel. They are not the Holy Spirit. They are not the source of power. The are not God. They are table-waiters. And the faith that happens when the food of God’s word is served, happens through them, like a canal, not from them like a spring. So don’t think of them as originators. They don’t originate. They deliver. They serve.

God Assigns the Response

Verse 5 again: Paul and Apollos are “servants through whom you believed, as the Lord assigned or gave to each.” In other words, even if you detect a difference in who responds in faith when Paul or Apollos speaks, remember: The Lord assigns those differences. The Lord gives faith to whom he will when Paul or Apollos speaks. If you think that the differences in responsiveness to the one or the other is ultimately owing to them, you do not yet understand how faith arises. Yes, you came to faith through Paul or through Apollos. But God gave that faith. God assigned that response. Don’t think Paul or Apollos was the decisive cause of your faith. They weren’t. The diversity of responses are decisively God’s doing. Verse 6: “I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth.” This makes the same point with different words. God is decisive, not man. He is going to say this again even more emphatically. But here notice that he does acknowledge the reality and the significance of planting and watering. And keep in mind verse 5: What comes through planting and watering is faith. “Servants through whom you believed.” The effect of planting is faith. The effect of watering is faith. But the decisive cause of faith — the life and growth of the plants — is not planting and watering.

The Emphasis Falls On God Not Man

It’s texts like these and hundreds of others that make us want to be a God-centered church. We want to spread a passion for the supremacy of God in all things. Things like planting and watering. Things like how you think about pastoral leaders. How you think about the fruit of their lives. God is supreme in the ministry of the church. God is supreme in the planting and watering. God is supreme in causing faith and giving the growth. God knows it. The Day — the Day of Judgment — will disclose it. Till they pray for them, because they will give an account for your souls and for their labor and their motives that you cannot see. God will give them their wages — their rewards — not you. Be careful how you boast and how you criticize. ONLY WHAT YOU DO FOR CHRIST WILL LAST.

Finally, verse 9: “For we are God’s fellow workers. You are God’s field, God’s building.” “We are God’s fellow workers.” What does that mean? The original wording and the context suggest it means Apollos and I are fellow workers with each other who belong to God. Not that we are fellow workers with God as a third worker. This is another statement of God’s supremacy — his authority, his rule. These fellow workers belong to God. WE ARE PARTNERS IN MINISTRY WITH GOD

From the desk of Pastor Stan—Getting Rooted- Becoming and Living Stronger with God

For the entire month of August 2020, I chose to focus all my messages on the above mentioned topic. There’s a song that we sing and the lyrics go something like this:

 

“I am thine O Lord I have heard thy voice. And it told of thy love to me.

But I long to rise in the arms of faith and be closer drawn to thee.

Draw me nearer, nearer, nearer Blessed Lord to the cross. Where thou hast died

Draw me nearer, nearer, nearer blessed Lord, To thy precious bleeding side.”

 My brothers and sisters, I know that if we come humbly before God, make our requests known, and allow God to work in us and through God will manifest Himself through us. Now is the time to get right with God and the series helps us to become stronger, live stronger and get rooted in God. I would like to share with you excerpts from the messages. Please read and pray, and may God lead and guide you as you honestly seek Him to discover what type of soil you are. The first sermon/message was planted.

Let’s take a look at the 4 different types of soil described in the parable of the sower.  <!–split–>

A hardened or oblivious heart is a barren wasteland. (Matthew 13:19)

Some are opposed to the good news, and there are those that are oblivious to it. Whether by personal volition or innocent omission, this parable is clear that seed will not grow where there is inhospitable soil. In fact, the enemy will come and snatch the seed away because he doesn’t want the seed to have any opportunity to take root and grow in a person’s life. This kind of soil will never reproduce because it cannot reproduce.

A troubled heart produces shallow roots. (Matthew 13:20-21)

Life is a long, and at times, difficult journey. A heart that is troubled by the obstacles and adversity of life will fail to produce deep roots. These individuals have an interest in the Gospel and even seem to embrace it at the beginning of the journey. However, over time without tending to the growth of the seed of the Gospel, they will fall away during the tough times and tribulations that all disciples of Christ experience. Jesus actually warned us, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33) Shallow roots will not sustain a person through the adverse and difficult seasons of life. It takes deep and strong roots growing in healthy soil to weather the stormy seasons.

A distracted heart bears no fruit (Matthew 13:22)

A distracted heart cannot grow the roots needed to sustain life. A heart that cares more for the things of the world than for the things of the Kingdom is not the healthy soil necessary to experience kingdom growth. Money, status, popularity, and other worldly endeavors choke out the ability of the seed to get the nutrients and care necessary to grow roots. Unhealthy and distracted soil is not the place for seed to grow, and definitely not the place to find a harvest of healthy fruit.

A fertile heart sustains life (Matthew 13:23)

A heart that is fertile is one that readily accepts the Gospel seed and does the hard work of nurturing it to grow. This heart is one that is open to the Truth of God’s Word and open to the transformation that will take place. This heart is made ready by the prompting of the Holy Spirit AND the participation of the individual. This heart does not just experience growth for themselves, but actually impacts those around them. Healthy soil is where seeds have the most opportunity to grow into life giving plants, trees, etc… For instance, a single healthy apple tree can bear enough fruit to feed dozens of people. Its shade gives rest to those who pass by on hot days. Its flowers nourish thousands of pollinators every spring. And its seed spreads and multiplies into an immeasurable amount of other apple trees over the course of its lifetime.

Conclusion/Application

What kind of soil describes your heart today? Are you indifferent to the good news of Jesus Christ? Are you needing to spend some time on the condition of your heart so that the seed of the gospel can grow deep and healthy roots? Are you distracted? Are there too many things in your life clamoring for your attention and care? If you’ve ever had an earthly garden you know the effort it takes to grow and sustain life in the garden. It’s no different with the eternal garden of your heart where the divine seeds of the gospel and the kingdom are trying to grow. They need healthy soil and consistent care.

From the desk of Pastor Stan

Learning to Lead Like Jesus With Encouragement—Chapter Ten Takeaways

  1. Encouraging leaders look every day for ways to encourage those they meet.
  2. Encouraging leaders are prayerful givers of customized courage.
  3. Encouraging leaders are generous givers of their time and money.
  4. Encouraging leaders take risks on flawed but potentially faithful leaders. <!–split–>

Learning to Lead Like Jesus with Faithfulness—Chapter Eleven Takeaways

  1. Faithful leaders walk by faith and trust the Lord with the things that are uncertain.
  2. Faithful leaders focus on depth of character and trust God for breadth of influence.
  3. Faithful leaders remain in service for the Lord beyond their career retirement.
  4. Faithful leaders have plans to manage money well, so money doesn’t manage them.
  5. Faithful leaders pursue God and receive His wisdom on how to live life.
  6. Faithful leaders put into practice what they learn.
  7. Faithful leaders are vulnerable and share their hearts.
  8. Faithful leaders develop successors who can successfully lead to the next level.
  9. Faithful leaders finish well.

From the desk of Pastor Stan . . .

Learning to Lead Like Jesus With Generosity—Chapter Eight Takeaways

  1. Generous leaders invest their time and expertise to serve a diverse range of people.
  2. Generous leaders give out of gratitude for what God has given.
  3. Generous leaders invest in their communities economically and spiritually.
  4. Generous leaders are called to generous living by the radical, generous love of God.

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 Learning to Lead Like Jesus with Forgiveness—Chapter Nine Takeaways

  1. Forgiving leaders engage in the process of confession, repentance, and forgiveness.
  2. Forgiving leaders embrace humility as a precondition for forgiveness.
  3. Forgiving leaders have abundant forgiveness even for those who hurt them the most.
  4. Forgiving leaders are chronically grateful for ongoing forgiveness from God.
  5. Forgiving leaders forgive others to the extent they have been forgiven by Christ.
  6. Forgiving leaders freely forgive others, and enjoy forgiveness from their Lord Jesus.
  7. Forgiving leaders lovingly meet their offenders and forgive specific sins.
  8. Forgiving leaders go to those they have offended, apologize, and ask for forgiveness.